Thursday, October 4, 2007

What I learned today...


Today was the first day of Catalyst. It was amazing. I am continuing to see how much I learn just from taking a break and being poured into for a day by other leaders instead of doing all the pouring. I had a chance to see what God has in store for me over the next year.

The thing that I take away from this day is actually a verse of scripture. Can you believe it??!! A verse from a new and futuristic conference? Yes. Francis Chan, the man, delivered what I think is one of the best sermons I have ever heard.

1 Corinthians 16:13 - It's time to be a man!!

Also- Shane Claiborne is very inspirational. Listening to him and his MANIFESTO makes me think that I really do have a chance to get a book published some day. Sorry, I think I would just like to see him and Driscoll go for a few rounds.

HAHAHAHA....anyway, more updates coming later.

B.

Also- I love my wife, she just made me cookies!!

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

Great Talk


If you are like me and you enjoy not so much being combative, but listening to other people who are then you will def. like Mark Driscoll's sermon that he gave at the convergent conference at southeastern seminary. just go to itunes, podcast directory, then search for southeastern and he will be down towards the bottom of the page. it is awesome. i think you will like it very much.

I'm Back Baby


What is up?!! It has been a while since I have sat down in my computer chair and starting writing again. But now I have spent time alone with God and had my spirit refreshed. I'm ready to go, ready to write. God has truly fallen fresh on me and in my heart.

Check back soon for some new updates.

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

For Now...

So it has been a while since I last posted a blog, and that has been no accident. I have felt pretty busy lately and the whole blog thing has been moved to the back burner. On top of that, I never want to be one of those guys who just writes to read his own thoughts....trust me, they aren't that important. What is important is giving myself completely to my God, wife, family, and church. This takes up a decent amount of time anyway. So until I have something that is worthwhile to say, I will continue to seek God, to hear His voice while mine, for the time being, remains silent.

If you do need to get in contact with me, you may do so in the following way:

email: jer1610@hotmail.com

Thanks.

Blessings,

Brett

Monday, August 6, 2007

vanity oh vanity

i have been thinking a lot lately about how much vanity must be involved to be part of the blogosphere. how else could one find it appropriate to say to the world, "here are my thoughts, you need these...enjoy!" what is it that drives us, as humans, to think that somehow we are, or ought to be, this important. i have read countless people's blogs of many professions (ministerial and otherwise) and wondered how they had so much time to sit at a computer. i have read others' and found myself marveling at the amount of narcisism that must exist in these persons' self awareness.

then i began to think about what it is that we do as ministers. we stand in front of a crowd, (hopefully) and trust that we have been in communion with the Almighty so that we may minister to those who need ministering to. i know that there is much more to ministry than speaking. (trust me, i work with middle schoolers) but i have been thinking about this very much.

do i simply want to be heard?

what makes me so different?

what makes me so special?

Friday, August 3, 2007

filled with the spirit

i have been thinking about what it means to be filled with the spirit lately. i want to badly for all the decisions that i make in my life..

anyone have any thoughts??

Wednesday, August 1, 2007

back to normal (right...)

i am so excited about getting back to speak at our MS program tonight. it has been a hectic 10 days. i have spoken at our kids worship services, high school, and college, and had to miss a couple of our programs, but hopefully tonight we can get back in a good routine again. i'm excited to get to hang with my kids tonight. talking about being excited, i can't wait to see the look on their faces when we reveal what we are going to be doing this fall. just gonna have to wait and see.

Monday, July 30, 2007

Back to the Future

tonight i led the college men's gathering at my church and had such a weird deja vu experience. it is so different for me to think about the things that i went through and things that i dealt with only three years ago. i looked at these guys who weren't much different than i am now and thought about all that had taken place in my life since i was even a senior in college.

i thought about the things that i used to struggle with and i had some interesting evaluations.

1.) Wow, God has really brought me through and from some things that seemed really difficult at the time.

2.) Wow, I am still dealing with some things that i should have laid down a long time ago.

*We talked through psalms 73 and what it meant to deal with temptations, and troubles. We also all decided that it was time for us to walk back into the house of God again and let our fear be swept up in the robe of God.

*That's all...just some later night ramblings.

Also- If anyone is looking for a townhouse...i have one that you would love!

Monday Morning Memo

So i subscribe to this e-newsletter called, Monday Morning Memos and today's was awesome- so i did what every good blogger should...i copied and pasted it right here for you. Enjoy!

What Courage Can Do With Six Dollars



Brad Lawrence has been a client of my firm for 12 years. During that time, he’s grown his business beyond all expectations.

Mostly because he’s got guts.

Recently, Brad was looking at a sort of charm bracelet for his jewelry store. He could buy the base bracelets for 6 dollars apiece if he ordered at least 500. That would be $3,000. But his real investment would be another $30,000 for the countless beads and charms with which women could personalize their bracelets.

His friends gave him lots of advice:

“Charm bracelets are dead. That trend has come and gone.”

“They’ll bring in the wrong customer. You’ll lose your reputation for upscale sophistication.”

“It would cost more to advertise the charm bracelets than you could make on them.”

What did Brad decide?

He decided to order 500 bracelets and give them all away.
My staff and I said “Hooray!”

Here’s what his friends said:

“People won’t value the bracelet if they get it for free.”

“People will take the bracelets, then sell them on eBay.”

“Giving away jewelry will make you look desperate.”

But Brad knew the story of K.C. Gillette, the man who gave away 90,884 razor handles in 1904 in the hope of selling disposable blades. By 1910 he was one of the richest men in America. Last year his company did more than $9 billion.

How did it work out for Brad?

The 500 free bracelets were gone in less than a week.
And within 6 weeks Brad had sold more than $100,000 worth of beads and charms. Only 28 people who took a bracelet failed to buy any ornaments for it.

This week Brad told me, “Groups of women are coming into the store during their lunch hour to shop for ornaments, beads and charms. Every day is like a party. The traffic is amazing. We're making lots of new friends and winning lots of new customers. It was one of the smartest things we’ve ever done.”

Brad Lawrence had the courage of his convictions. Do you?

Life is more fun on the edge.

And the view is better, too.

Roy H. Williams

Saturday, July 28, 2007

my blog rating

just had my blog rated. i think a "G" rating is kinda cool. this is about as edgy as i get.

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Tuesday, July 24, 2007

shout out


just wanted to say that today i am thinking about Joe McDaniel. He was my old boss at a previous church and a great one.

Sometimes I think that it's too easy to generalize an entire experience with one single emotion. Like painting with a broad brush. Life up to this point has been pretty interesting for me professionally. I have had some great experiences, and some ones that I think were for learning, and others that were used to prune me and taught me to let go of my pride. I don't ever want to be the kind of person who can't learn, or the kind who can't let things go, or the type that whines about it even after the fact.

God has been in charge for a lot longer than I understand and He will take me the rest of the way.

Monday, July 23, 2007

Brett's Blog Roll

I have been blogging for about 7 months now and it is my favorite new thing in 2007. I am so amazed that there is so much info out there that I never knew about. So, here is a list of the top ten of my favorite blogs. These are the tops of the too many that I read on a daily basis:

1.) Kurt Johnson http://simplykurt.blogspot.com/
This guy is the man. He is at the Mecca. Jr. High pastor at Saddleback

2.) Mark Batterson http://evotional.com/
Pastor at National Community Church. Author of I.D. and In a Pit, With a Lion, On a Snowy Day. Great Blog from a truly visionary, futurist pastor.

3.) Perry Noble http://www.perrynoble.com/
Pastor at Newspring Church. One of the fastest growing churches in the country.

4.) Alden Ellis http://www.aldenellis.com/
MS Pastor at Newspring Church. One of my new favorites. I think I can really learn from other guys who do what I do at a high level of excellence.

5.) Lane Moore http://lanedmoore.blogspot.com/
My Wife's Blog. The HOTTEST woman alive with her thoughts on how she is so stinkin' Godly, cool, and amazing!!!!!

6.) Steven Furtick http://www.stevenfurtick.com/
Pastor at Elevation Church in Charlotte, NC. His wife went to school with mine and he is a great pastor of a cool, growing church.

7.) Tony Morgan http://www.tonymorganlive.com/tony_morgan_one_of_the_si/
One of the great ones. Came from Granger Community Church - these guys are the revolutionaries. Now he is at Newspring.

8.) Ben Arment http://www.benarment.com/history_in_the_making/
Church planter in Reston, VA. Great blog with great honesty in his blogs. He actually is one of the most consistent bloggers out there.

9.) Keith Watson http://keithwatson.blogspot.com/
I used to work with Keith at a church in Macon, GA. He is now in the process of planting a church in downtown, Macon.

10.) Pastor Kevin Myers http://nsssummer.cccblogs.com/
My pastor at Crossroads Community Church. He is the man. Amazing. Great pastor, great leader, great father, and one of the coolest guys I am privileged to know.

Sunday, July 22, 2007

no seriously

so i made it through the day. let me just say that the ability to rant and rave to your good friends who are willing to listen is a key and important part of my life. my pastors are really great. they support me, want me to win, and think i am doing a good job. and the crazy thing is that they actually tell me. i love it.

so on a lighter note. i am half way there on my savings for my iphone. i put away the extra money and will have the rest when my rebate check makes its way here. here's a picture if you don't remember.

(just scroll down)

out of breath

this afternoon i have an hour break so i thought i might update what has been going on today. i am so stressed because i am way over-extended. this morning we had to do encounter without laura, one of our ministry interns. jeremy is still out of town so we were already without some key leadership. also- i had committed a month ago to teach at our kids co. program this sunday so i wasn't able to be there either. i wish it was alright for me to not be there one sunday. i love what i do. i love my students...and in a rare occurece- my volunteers are awesome. i love those guys. sometimes- i think it might be up to timing (is it too early, or have you put in the time, to earn time away- doing whatever [vacation, other ministry, family time, etc.])
today will be awesome, once it's over.

Friday, July 20, 2007

confession


Ben Arment's blog has me thinking...maybe I should do some confession via blogospere.

Here is my latest lust-

Late Night

So it's late Friday night and I'm waiting for Lane to get home from her date with her mom and I have a few random thoughts for you to chew on...

1.) I don't agree that the British Open is the most important golf tournament in the world. Oldest doesn't mean best. If that were the case, we'd all be Catholic.

2.) If Barry Bonds reaches 756 home runs, I will be excited. How often does this stuff happen? (also- I don't want to hear about a-rod...that is way up in the air.)

3.) Accountability, and the friendships that it produces, is one of my fav. aspects of following Jesus.

4.) I really want to know why Dan Patrick is leaving ESPN!

That's all...Randomness wins in the late night....again!

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

What Pit Bulls can teach us about Profiling

I thought this only fitting considering the news of Mr. Vick today.

What pit bulls can teach us about profiling.

1.

One afternoon last February, Guy Clairoux picked up his two-and-a half-year-old son, Jayden, from day care and walked him back to their house in the west end of Ottawa, Ontario. They were almost home. Jayden was straggling behind, and, as his father's back was turned, a pit bull jumped over a back-yard fence and lunged at Jayden. "The dog had his head in its mouth and started to do this shake," Clairoux's wife, JoAnn Hartley, said later. As she watched in horror, two more pit bulls jumped over the fence, joining in the assault. She and Clairoux came running, and he punched the first of the dogs in the head, until it dropped Jayden, and then he threw the boy toward his mother. Hartley fell on her son, protecting him with her body. "JoAnn!" Clairoux cried out, as all three dogs descended on his wife. "Cover your neck, cover your neck." A neighbor, sitting by her window, screamed for help. Her partner and a friend, Mario Gauthier, ran outside. A neighborhood boy grabbed his hockey stick and threw it to Gauthier. He began hitting one of the dogs over the head, until the stick broke. "They wouldn't stop," Gauthier said. "As soon as you'd stop, they'd attack again. I've never seen a dog go so crazy. They were like Tasmanian devils." The police came. The dogs were pulled away, and the Clairouxes and one of the rescuers were taken to the hospital. Five days later, the Ontario legislature banned the ownership of pit bulls. "Just as we wouldn't let a great white shark in a swimming pool," the province's attorney general, Michael Bryant, had said, "maybe we shouldn't have these animals on the civilized streets."

Pit bulls, descendants of the bulldogs used in the nineteenth century for bull baiting and dogfighting, have been bred for "gameness," and thus a lowered inhibition to aggression. Most dogs fight as a last resort, when staring and growling fail. A pit bull is willing to fight with little or no provocation. Pit bulls seem to have a high tolerance for pain, making it possible for them to fight to the point of exhaustion. Whereas guard dogs like German shepherds usually attempt to restrain those they perceive to be threats by biting and holding, pit bulls try to inflict the maximum amount of damage on an opponent. They bite, hold, shake, and tear. They don't growl or assume an aggressive facial expression as warning. They just attack. "They are often insensitive to behaviors that usually stop aggression," one scientific review of the breed states. "For example, dogs not bred for fighting usually display defeat in combat by rolling over and exposing a light underside. On several occasions, pit bulls have been reported to disembowel dogs offering this signal of submission." In epidemiological studies of dog bites, the pit bull is overrepresented among dogs known to have seriously injured or killed human beings, and, as a result, pit bulls have been banned or restricted in several Western European countries, China, and numerous cities and municipalities across North America. Pit bulls are dangerous.

Of course, not all pit bulls are dangerous. Most don't bite anyone. Meanwhile, Dobermans and Great Danes and German shepherds and Rottweilers are frequent biters as well, and the dog that recently mauled a Frenchwoman so badly that she was given the world's first face transplant was, of all things, a Labrador retriever. When we say that pit bulls are dangerous, we are making a generalization, just as insurance companies use generalizations when they charge young men more for car insurance than the rest of us (even though many young men are perfectly good drivers), and doctors use generalizations when they tell overweight middle-aged men to get their cholesterol checked (even though many overweight middle-aged men won't experience heart trouble). Because we don't know which dog will bite someone or who will have a heart attack or which drivers will get in an accident, we can make predictions only by generalizing. As the legal scholar Frederick Schauer has observed, "painting with a broad brush" is "an often inevitable and frequently desirable dimension of our decision-making lives."

Another word for generalization, though, is "stereotype," and stereotypes are usually not considered desirable dimensions of our decision-making lives. The process of moving from the specific to the general is both necessary and perilous. A doctor could, with some statistical support, generalize about men of a certain age and weight. But what if generalizing from other traits—such as high blood pressure, family history, and smoking—saved more lives? Behind each generalization is a choice of what factors to leave in and what factors to leave out, and those choices can prove surprisingly complicated. After the attack on Jayden Clairoux, the Ontario government chose to make a generalization about pit bulls. But it could also have chosen to generalize about powerful dogs, or about the kinds of people who own powerful dogs, or about small children, or about back-yard fences—or, indeed, about any number of other things to do with dogs and people and places. How do we know when we've made the right generalization?

2.

In July of last year, following the transit bombings in London, the New York City Police Department announced that it would send officers into the subways to conduct random searches of passengers' bags. On the face of it, doing random searches in the hunt for terrorists—as opposed to being guided by generalizations—seems like a silly idea. As a columnist in New York wrote at the time, "Not just 'most' but nearly every jihadi who has attacked a Western European or American target is a young Arab or Pakistani man. In other words, you can predict with a fair degree of certainty what an Al Qaeda terrorist looks like. Just as we have always known what Mafiosi look like—even as we understand that only an infinitesimal fraction of Italian-Americans are members of the mob."

But wait: do we really know what mafiosi look like? In "The Godfather," where most of us get our knowledge of the Mafia, the male members of the Corleone family were played by Marlon Brando, who was of Irish and French ancestry, James Caan, who is Jewish, and two Italian-Americans, Al Pacino and John Cazale. To go by "The Godfather," mafiosi look like white men of European descent, which, as generalizations go, isn't terribly helpful. Figuring out what an Islamic terrorist looks like isn't any easier. Muslims are not like the Amish: they don't come dressed in identifiable costumes. And they don't look like basketball players; they don't come in predictable shapes and sizes. Islam is a religion that spans the globe.

"We have a policy against racial profiling," Raymond Kelly, New York City's police commissioner, told me. "I put it in here in March of the first year I was here. It's the wrong thing to do, and it's also ineffective. If you look at the London bombings, you have three British citizens of Pakistani descent. You have Germaine Lindsay, who is Jamaican. You have the next crew, on July 21st, who are East African. You have a Chechen woman in Moscow in early 2004 who blows herself up in the subway station. So whom do you profile? Look at New York City. Forty per cent of New Yorkers are born outside the country. Look at the diversity here. Who am I supposed to profile?"

Kelly was pointing out what might be called profiling's "category problem." Generalizations involve matching a category of people to a behavior or trait—overweight middle-aged men to heart-attack risk, young men to bad driving. But, for that process to work, you have to be able both to define and to identify the category you are generalizing about. "You think that terrorists aren't aware of how easy it is to be characterized by ethnicity?" Kelly went on. "Look at the 9/11 hijackers. They came here. They shaved. They went to topless bars. They wanted to blend in. They wanted to look like they were part of the American dream. These are not dumb people. Could a terrorist dress up as a Hasidic Jew and walk into the subway, and not be profiled? Yes. I think profiling is just nuts."

3.

Pit-bull bans involve a category problem, too, because pit bulls, as it happens, aren't a single breed. The name refers to dogs belonging to a number of related breeds, such as the American Staffordshire terrier, the Staffordshire bull terrier, and the American pit bull terrier—all of which share a square and muscular body, a short snout, and a sleek, short-haired coat. Thus the Ontario ban prohibits not only these three breeds but any "dog that has an appearance and physical characteristics that are substantially similar" to theirs; the term of art is "pit bull-type" dogs. But what does that mean? Is a cross between an American pit bull terrier and a golden retriever a pit bull-type dog or a golden retriever-type dog? If thinking about muscular terriers as pit bulls is a generalization, then thinking about dangerous dogs as anything substantially similar to a pit bull is a generalization about a generalization. "The way a lot of these laws are written, pit bulls are whatever they say they are," Lora Brashears, a kennel manager in Pennsylvania, says. "And for most people it just means big, nasty, scary dog that bites."

The goal of pit-bull bans, obviously, isn't to prohibit dogs that look like pit bulls. The pit-bull appearance is a proxy for the pit-bull temperament—for some trait that these dogs share. But "pit bullness" turns out to be elusive as well. The supposedly troublesome characteristics of the pit-bull type—its gameness, its determination, its insensitivity to pain—are chiefly directed toward other dogs. Pit bulls were not bred to fight humans. On the contrary: a dog that went after spectators, or its handler, or the trainer, or any of the other people involved in making a dogfighting dog a good dogfighter was usually put down. (The rule in the pit-bull world was "Man-eaters die.")

A Georgia-based group called the American Temperament Test Society has put twenty-five thousand dogs through a ten-part standardized drill designed to assess a dog's stability, shyness, aggressiveness, and friendliness in the company of people. A handler takes a dog on a six-foot lead and judges its reaction to stimuli such as gunshots, an umbrella opening, and a weirdly dressed stranger approaching in a threatening way. Eighty-four per cent of the pit bulls that have been given the test have passed, which ranks pit bulls ahead of beagles, Airedales, bearded collies, and all but one variety of dachshund. "We have tested somewhere around a thousand pit-bull-type dogs," Carl Herkstroeter, the president of the A.T.T.S., says. "I've tested half of them. And of the number I've tested I have disqualified one pit bull because of aggressive tendencies. They have done extremely well. They have a good temperament. They are very good with children." It can even be argued that the same traits that make the pit bull so aggressive toward other dogs are what make it so nice to humans. "There are a lot of pit bulls these days who are licensed therapy dogs," the writer Vicki Hearne points out. "Their stability and resoluteness make them excellent for work with people who might not like a more bouncy, flibbertigibbet sort of dog. When pit bulls set out to provide comfort, they are as resolute as they are when they fight, but what they are resolute about is being gentle. And, because they are fearless, they can be gentle with anybody."

Then which are the pit bulls that get into trouble? "The ones that the legislation is geared toward have aggressive tendencies that are either bred in by the breeder, trained in by the trainer, or reinforced in by the owner," Herkstroeter says. A mean pit bull is a dog that has been turned mean, by selective breeding, by being cross-bred with a bigger, human-aggressive breed like German shepherds or Rottweilers, or by being conditioned in such a way that it begins to express hostility to human beings. A pit bull is dangerous to people, then, not to the extent that it expresses its essential pit bullness but to the extent that it deviates from it. A pit-bull ban is a generalization about a generalization about a trait that is not, in fact, general. That's a category problem.

4.

One of the puzzling things about New York City is that, after the enormous and well-publicized reductions in crime in the mid-nineteen-nineties, the crime rate has continued to fall. In the past two years, for instance, murder in New York has declined by almost ten per cent, rape by twelve per cent, and burglary by more than eighteen per cent. Just in the last year, auto theft went down 11.8 per cent. On a list of two hundred and forty cities in the United States with a population of a hundred thousand or more, New York City now ranks two hundred-and-twenty-second in crime, down near the bottom with Fontana, California, and Port St. Lucie, Florida. In the nineteen-nineties, the crime decrease was attributed to big obvious changes in city life and government—the decline of the drug trade, the gentrification of Brooklyn, the successful implementation of "broken windows" policing. But all those big changes happened a decade ago. Why is crime still falling?

The explanation may have to do with a shift in police tactics. The N.Y.P.D. has a computerized map showing, in real time, precisely where serious crimes are being reported, and at any moment the map typically shows a few dozen constantly shifting high-crime hot spots, some as small as two or three blocks square. What the N.Y.P.D. has done, under Commissioner Kelly, is to use the map to establish "impact zones," and to direct newly graduated officers—who used to be distributed proportionally to precincts across the city—to these zones, in some cases doubling the number of officers in the immediate neighborhood. "We took two-thirds of our graduating class and linked them with experienced officers, and focussed on those areas," Kelly said. "Well, what has happened is that over time we have averaged about a thirty-five-per-cent crime reduction in impact zones."

For years, experts have maintained that the incidence of violent crime is "inelastic" relative to police presence—that people commit serious crimes because of poverty and psychopathology and cultural dysfunction, along with spontaneous motives and opportunities. The presence of a few extra officers down the block, it was thought, wouldn't make much difference. But the N.Y.P.D. experience suggests otherwise. More police means that some crimes are prevented, others are more easily solved, and still others are displaced—pushed out of the troubled neighborhood—which Kelly says is a good thing, because it disrupts the patterns and practices and social networks that serve as the basis for lawbreaking. In other words, the relation between New York City (a category) and criminality (a trait) is unstable, and this kind of instability is another way in which our generalizations can be derailed.

Why, for instance, is it a useful rule of thumb that Kenyans are good distance runners? It's not just that it's statistically supportable today. It's that it has been true for almost half a century, and that in Kenya the tradition of distance running is sufficiently rooted that something cataclysmic would have to happen to dislodge it. By contrast, the generalization that New York City is a crime-ridden place was once true and now, manifestly, isn't. People who moved to sunny retirement communities like Port St. Lucie because they thought they were much safer than New York are suddenly in the position of having made the wrong bet.

The instability issue is a problem for profiling in law enforcement as well. The law professor David Cole once tallied up some of the traits that Drug Enforcement Administration agents have used over the years in making generalizations about suspected smugglers. Here is a sample:

Arrived late at night; arrived early in the morning; arrived in afternoon; one of the first to deplane; one of the last to deplane; deplaned in the middle; purchased ticket at the airport; made reservation on short notice; bought coach ticket; bought first-class ticket; used one-way ticket; used round-trip ticket; paid for ticket with cash; paid for ticket with small denomination currency; paid for ticket with large denomination currency; made local telephone calls after deplaning; made long distance telephone call after deplaning; pretended to make telephone call; traveled from New York to Los Angeles; traveled to Houston; carried no luggage; carried brand-new luggage; carried a small bag; carried a medium-sized bag; carried two bulky garment bags; carried two heavy suitcases; carried four pieces of luggage; overly protective of luggage; disassociated self from luggage; traveled alone; traveled with a companion; acted too nervous; acted too calm; made eye contact with officer; avoided making eye contact with officer; wore expensive clothing and jewelry; dressed casually; went to restroom after deplaning; walked rapidly through airport; walked slowly through airport; walked aimlessly through airport; left airport by taxi; left airport by limousine; left airport by private car; left airport by hotel courtesy van.

Some of these reasons for suspicion are plainly absurd, suggesting that there's no particular rationale to the generalizations used by D.E.A. agents in stopping suspected drug smugglers. A way of making sense of the list, though, is to think of it as a catalogue of unstable traits. Smugglers may once have tended to buy one-way tickets in cash and carry two bulky suitcases. But they don't have to. They can easily switch to round-trip tickets bought with a credit card, or a single carry-on bag, without losing their capacity to smuggle. There's a second kind of instability here as well. Maybe the reason some of them switched from one-way tickets and two bulky suitcases was that law enforcement got wise to those habits, so the smugglers did the equivalent of what the jihadis seemed to have done in London, when they switched to East Africans because the scrutiny of young Arab and Pakistani men grew too intense. It doesn't work to generalize about a relationship between a category and a trait when that relationship isn't stable—or when the act of generalizing may itself change the basis of the generalization.

Before Kelly became the New York police commissioner, he served as the head of the U.S. Customs Service, and while he was there he overhauled the criteria that border-control officers use to identify and search suspected smugglers. There had been a list of forty-three suspicious traits. He replaced it with a list of six broad criteria. Is there something suspicious about their physical appearance? Are they nervous? Is there specific intelligence targeting this person? Does the drug-sniffing dog raise an alarm? Is there something amiss in their paperwork or explanations? Has contraband been found that implicates this person?

You'll find nothing here about race or gender or ethnicity, and nothing here about expensive jewelry or deplaning at the middle or the end, or walking briskly or walking aimlessly. Kelly removed all the unstable generalizations, forcing customs officers to make generalizations about things that don't change from one day or one month to the next. Some percentage of smugglers will always be nervous, will always get their story wrong, and will always be caught by the dogs. That's why those kinds of inferences are more reliable than the ones based on whether smugglers are white or black, or carry one bag or two. After Kelly's reforms, the number of searches conducted by the Customs Service dropped by about seventy-five per cent, but the number of successful seizures improved by twenty-five per cent. The officers went from making fairly lousy decisions about smugglers to making pretty good ones. "We made them more efficient and more effective at what they were doing," Kelly said.

5.

Does the notion of a pit-bull menace rest on a stable or an unstable generalization? The best data we have on breed dangerousness are fatal dog bites, which serve as a useful indicator of just how much havoc certain kinds of dogs are causing. Between the late nineteen-seventies and the late nineteen-nineties, more than twenty-five breeds were involved in fatal attacks in the United States. Pit-bull breeds led the pack, but the variability from year to year is considerable. For instance, in the period from 1981 to 1982 fatalities were caused by five pit bulls, three mixed breeds, two St. Bernards, two German-shepherd mixes, a pure-bred German shepherd, a husky type, a Doberman, a Chow Chow, a Great Dane, a wolf-dog hybrid, a husky mix, and a pit-bull mix—but no Rottweilers. In 1995 and 1996, the list included ten Rottweilers, four pit bulls, two German shepherds, two huskies, two Chow Chows, two wolf-dog hybrids, two shepherd mixes, a Rottweiler mix, a mixed breed, a Chow Chow mix, and a Great Dane. The kinds of dogs that kill people change over time, because the popularity of certain breeds changes over time. The one thing that doesn't change is the total number of the people killed by dogs. When we have more problems with pit bulls, it's not necessarily a sign that pit bulls are more dangerous than other dogs. It could just be a sign that pit bulls have become more numerous.

"I've seen virtually every breed involved in fatalities, including Pomeranians and everything else, except a beagle or a basset hound," Randall Lockwood, a senior vice-president of the A.S.P.C.A. and one of the country's leading dogbite experts, told me. "And there's always one or two deaths attributable to malamutes or huskies, although you never hear people clamoring for a ban on those breeds. When I first started looking at fatal dog attacks, they largely involved dogs like German shepherds and shepherd mixes and St. Bernards—which is probably why Stephen King chose to make Cujo a St. Bernard, not a pit bull. I haven't seen a fatality involving a Doberman for decades, whereas in the nineteen-seventies they were quite common. If you wanted a mean dog, back then, you got a Doberman. I don't think I even saw my first pit-bull case until the middle to late nineteen-eighties, and I didn't start seeing Rottweilers until I'd already looked at a few hundred fatal dog attacks. Now those dogs make up the preponderance of fatalities. The point is that it changes over time. It's a reflection of what the dog of choice is among people who want to own an aggressive dog."

There is no shortage of more stable generalizations about dangerous dogs, though. A 1991 study in Denver, for example, compared a hundred and seventy-eight dogs with a history of biting people with a random sample of a hundred and seventy-eight dogs with no history of biting. The breeds were scattered: German shepherds, Akitas, and Chow Chows were among those most heavily represented. (There were no pit bulls among the biting dogs in the study, because Denver banned pit bulls in 1989.) But a number of other, more stable factors stand out. The biters were 6.2 times as likely to be male than female, and 2.6 times as likely to be intact than neutered. The Denver study also found that biters were 2.8 times as likely to be chained as unchained. "About twenty per cent of the dogs involved in fatalities were chained at the time, and had a history of long-term chaining," Lockwood said. "Now, are they chained because they are aggressive or aggressive because they are chained? It's a bit of both. These are animals that have not had an opportunity to become socialized to people. They don't necessarily even know that children are small human beings. They tend to see them as prey."

In many cases, vicious dogs are hungry or in need of medical attention. Often, the dogs had a history of aggressive incidents, and, overwhelmingly, dog-bite victims were children (particularly small boys) who were physically vulnerable to attack and may also have unwittingly done things to provoke the dog, like teasing it, or bothering it while it was eating. The strongest connection of all, though, is between the trait of dog viciousness and certain kinds of dog owners. In about a quarter of fatal dog-bite cases, the dog owners were previously involved in illegal fighting. The dogs that bite people are, in many cases, socially isolated because their owners are socially isolated, and they are vicious because they have owners who want a vicious dog. The junk-yard German shepherd—which looks as if it would rip your throat out—and the German-shepherd guide dog are the same breed. But they are not the same dog, because they have owners with different intentions.

"A fatal dog attack is not just a dog bite by a big or aggressive dog," Lockwood went on. "It is usually a perfect storm of bad human-canine interactions—the wrong dog, the wrong background, the wrong history in the hands of the wrong person in the wrong environmental situation. I've been involved in many legal cases involving fatal dog attacks, and, certainly, it's my impression that these are generally cases where everyone is to blame. You've got the unsupervised three-year-old child wandering in the neighborhood killed by a starved, abused dog owned by the dogfighting boyfriend of some woman who doesn't know where her child is. It's not old Shep sleeping by the fire who suddenly goes bonkers. Usually there are all kinds of other warning signs."

6.

Jayden Clairoux was attacked by Jada, a pit-bull terrier, and her two pit-bull–bullmastiff puppies, Agua and Akasha. The dogs were owned by a twenty-one-year-old man named Shridev Café, who worked in construction and did odd jobs. Five weeks before the Clairoux attack, Café's three dogs got loose and attacked a sixteen-year-old boy and his four-year-old half brother while they were ice skating. The boys beat back the animals with a snow shovel and escaped into a neighbor's house. Café was fined, and he moved the dogs to his seventeen-year-old girlfriend's house. This was not the first time that he ran into trouble last year; a few months later, he was charged with domestic assault, and, in another incident, involving a street brawl, with aggravated assault. "Shridev has personal issues," Cheryl Smith, a canine-behavior specialist who consulted on the case, says. "He's certainly not a very mature person." Agua and Akasha were now about seven months old. The court order in the wake of the first attack required that they be muzzled when they were outside the home and kept in an enclosed yard. But Café did not muzzle them, because, he said later, he couldn't afford muzzles, and apparently no one from the city ever came by to force him to comply. A few times, he talked about taking his dogs to obedience classes, but never did. The subject of neutering them also came up—particularly Agua, the male—but neutering cost a hundred dollars, which he evidently thought was too much money, and when the city temporarily confiscated his animals after the first attack it did not neuter them, either, because Ottawa does not have a policy of preëmptively neutering dogs that bite people.

On the day of the second attack, according to some accounts, a visitor came by the house of Café's girlfriend, and the dogs got wound up. They were put outside, where the snowbanks were high enough so that the back-yard fence could be readily jumped. Jayden Clairoux stopped and stared at the dogs, saying, "Puppies, puppies." His mother called out to his father. His father came running, which is the kind of thing that will rile up an aggressive dog. The dogs jumped the fence, and Agua took Jayden's head in his mouth and started to shake. It was a textbook dog-biting case: unneutered, ill-trained, charged-up dogs, with a history of aggression and an irresponsible owner, somehow get loose, and set upon a small child. The dogs had already passed through the animal bureaucracy of Ottawa, and the city could easily have prevented the second attack with the right kind of generalization—a generalization based not on breed but on the known and meaningful connection between dangerous dogs and negligent owners. But that would have required someone to track down Shridev Café, and check to see whether he had bought muzzles, and someone to send the dogs to be neutered after the first attack, and an animal-control law that insured that those whose dogs attack small children forfeit their right to have a dog. It would have required, that is, a more exacting set of generalizations to be more exactingly applied. It's always easier just to ban the breed.

-Malcolm Gladwell

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

phunny reminder

i ran into an old friend today, dan westmoreland. he used to play in a worship band that was really popular and dan was really talented. when i ran into him it was weird because he was working at a golf shop. we talked for a while and i found out that he used to work at a church. he was a youth minister for about a year but got tired and burnt out quickly. he pointed out that working in the "world" presented far less criticism and pressure than working at a church ever did. how weird is that?! shouldn't it be the other way around, or have we completely screwed it up big time. i am going to have to think about that one today. other than that, today is going pretty stinkin' well.

p.s. i love my wife. she is so cool. (in a hot sort of way)

Monday, July 16, 2007

my personality DNA test

i just took a test to see what my personality DNA is like and found that i am an

ENCOURAGING CREATOR

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monday morning memos...

so today is monday and it is one of those days when i wish i could stop the sun in the sky for a few minutes just so i could get some rest. i have been going strong for the last 9 days without a break and i am starting to feel the burn. maybe i should heed some of my own advice, i don't know. just wanted to get that out there.

Sunday, July 15, 2007

i trust you not to kill me...

saw this on driscoll's blog. this is one of those times i really love mark driscoll.

Ways to Keep from Killing Yourself and Others in Ministry

1. Accept the size of your plate and fill it.
2. Exercise.
3. Do not allow technology to be your Lord.
a. Have two cell phones.
b. Have two email accounts.
c. Have someone schedule appointments and screen all email.
d. Consider getting rid of your voicemail.
e. Delete emails quickly.
f. Have an assistant send you a daily items email.
g. Use an out-of-office autoreply as needed.
4. Sabbath hourly, daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, and annually.
5. Schedule your vacations first and block them out on your calendar.
6. Pick an acceptable release valve.
7. Appoint someone other than your wife as your lightning rod.
8. Spend most of your time training leaders.
9. Pay attention to what God is saying through your body and emotions.
10. Feel your emotions but do not allow them to drive you in a bad direction.
11. Do not worry yourself into a frenzy.
12. Work from conviction, not guilt.
13. Get a coach or a counselor.
14. Have a study and an office.
15. Schedule meetings rarely.
16. Say no, and keep saying no.
17. Get a wedding coordinator.
18. Carry a notebook at all times to jot thoughts and notes.
19. See your days as buckets to fill.
20. Consider regular medical massage

curve ball

you know the only way to successfully hit a curve ball? you have to sit back and wait for it and then it seems just like another slow pitch. that's the problem with curve balls, everyone is out in front. they try to swing before its time. i think the same philosophy can be applied to the curve balls that we are thrown in our daily lives not only as ministers, but as Christians as well. we get all excited and "get out in front" of the problem and usually end up with a whiff. we just need to sit back, and wait, and then we will be able to knock it out of the park.

i had a situation like this occur today. we have our weekly small group gathering off campus of our main church. this means we usually bus around 125 students to another site while the others are brought by their parents. our program begins at 9:10, and usually lasts around an hour or so. today, i got a call at 8:50 that the bus was broken down and that the only way our ms students were going to get to our program was to hitch rides. did you hear me??? MS STUDENTS hitching rides with whoever they could who had an s.u.v. or van.

i could've lost it. i could've gotten out in front of the ball, but i sat back, waited, and i think today we knocked it out of the park.

p.s. yesterday produced much high levels of lol with our vols on the river....pictures to follow soon.

Saturday, July 14, 2007

you look like a helen...

getting ready as i right this to go out and meet our vols. for a day trip up to helen, ga for a day of fun, fried chicken, and tubing down the river. i think that spending time with your volunteers, especially out of ministry context, is a great way to build team unity, and to develop loyalty. i asked all of them to bring their families too so that lane and i could get to know everyone. i love what i get to do, where i get to do it, and how God is using a stupid, broken, ugly vessel like myself to accomplish things for his kingdom.


pictures to come on monday...

Friday, July 13, 2007

sabbath review

went to play golf today..shot 76, not my best. anyway, had a great time hanging out with some of the guys on staff, and chad childress from NAMB. (cool guy) i am now certain that i believe that the best way to get to know a guy is to spend some time doing something competitive. how we compete, as men, says a great deal about our given amounts of passion, aggression, and integrity. all things that are helpful when getting to know someone new. all that to say, again my heart's feeling is confirmed that standing as the first tee time seeing the dew lift, the sun rise, and the chill linger, is a great way to experience God. just another great window into the soul that God placed in me.

in other news, my dad just got back from Belize on Wed. and had a great time. it's interesting to see how he's jumping in and chasing the ministry lion with such vigor that it can only be admired!!

going to hang with lane's parents and my bro and sis in law.

enjoying this sabbath very much.

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Best Sellers List

I think the best way to see what is going on in the heart of the citizens of our country is to take a look at the best sellers list. What do you think?

1 THE SECRET, by Rhonda Byrne. (Atria/Beyond Words, $23.95.) The key to getting what you want.

2 THE DANGEROUS BOOK FOR BOYS, by Conn Iggulden and Hal Iggulden. (Collins/HarperCollins, $24.95.) Skipping stones and other essential activities.

3 CULTURALLY INCORRECT, by Rod Parsley. (Thomas Nelson, $22.99.) Thoughts on the polarization of America.

4 REPOSITION YOURSELF, by T. D. Jakes. (Atria, $24.) How to grow spiritually and materially through faith.

5 THE MILLIONAIRE MAKER’S GUIDE TO CREATING A CASH MACHINE FOR LIFE, by Loral Langemeier. (McGraw-Hill, $24.95.) Build a lucrative business. (†)

6 THE 4-HOUR WORKWEEK, by Timothy Ferriss. (Crown, $19.95.) Because life isn’t all about work.

7 YOU: ON A DIET, by Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz et al (Free Press)

8 NOW, DISCOVER YOUR STRENGTHS, by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton (Free Press)

9 SECRETS OF THE MILLIONAIRE MIND, by T. Harv Eker (Collins)

10 WHO MOVED MY CHEESE?, by Spencer Johnson (Putnam)

11 THE WEIGHT LOSS CURE "THEY" DON'T WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT, by Kevin Trudeau (Alliance)

12 WOMEN & MONEY, by Suze Orman (Spiegel & Grau)

13 DO YOU!, by Russell Simmons with Chris Morrow (Gotham)

14 THE ABS DIET FOR WOMEN, by David Zinczenko with Ted Spiker (Rodale)

15 DIP, by Seth Godin (Portfolio)

Wow, we really are impressed with ourselves.

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

new series update

met with the creative team last night at stella's...great espresso. anyway, our next series is going to be off the charts. i don't think anyone has ever done what we are attempting to do with these middle schoolers. i am excited to see how God is going to use the next 6 weeks as we get geared up for the start of school. that is so weird...school starts back sooner every stinkin' year. glad i'm all done. (hahahaha)

anyway- i read something really cool this morning. i am starting to go through the book of daniel in my personal study time and read chapter 1 this morning. i am amazed to see that God will give us what we need in every situation and more. daniel and his friends were already among the smartest and most insightful in all of the kingdom, but when they entered into their time with king neb. God gave them even more understanding. it is so awesome for me to think about how much God goes before me on a daily basis and provides for my every need.

last thing- the one thing that we couldn't nail down was a title for the series. we are thinking something along the lines of national treasure, lost treasure, something like that. if anyone has any ideas, that would be great.

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

new nouwen fan!!!!

i have spent the last couple of weeks reading what is probably one of the most amazing books i have ever come across. it's called, "in the name of jesus" by henri nouwen. this book is so beautifully written that you cannot help turning each page in guilty anticipation of what you are being convicted of in your ministerial life...the three main issues addressed are these (taken from the story of the temptation of Jesus)

1.) The temptation to be relevant.
2.) The temptation to be spectacular.
3.) The temptation to be powerful.

Each temptation is then followed with a challenge to embrace a discipline, and then a call to higher life.

Great book, written in a style of easy flowing prose similar to Ken Gire.

Great CD

Just finished listening to a new fav. artist- jeremy riddle. his cd, sweetly broken, is amazing. what's even more amazing is that he is from cali and not england. (cool accent) check it out, you can listen on his website.

http://www.jeremyriddle.net/

Thursday, July 5, 2007

Fireworks Day!

Yesterday was a stinkin' blast. Went to Carrolton with Lane to hang with her family and mine for the fourth of July. Had a GREAT time hangin with Dan, Linsey, Jeff and the 55 other members of the Dixon/Maxwell clan. It is so cool to me to hang with the people who made Lane who she is today.

All throughout the day I thought about how blessed I am to be married to one of the coolest people in the world and how much l like hanging with her family.

Also- one of my favorite things of all time- driving on trips with Lane. I guess God knew that i was going to be a road warrior and gave me the greatest roadtrip buddy ever. Much fun, food, and fireworks.

Tuesday, July 3, 2007

In spite of...

So my wife has a blog. An awesome one. We really are a digital family. Anyway, she is a little discouraged to find that there have been fewer comments lately. This is really sad. Her thoughts are so great. Thought provoking, interesting, and very well written....how could anyone not read this great stuff??!!

This got me thinking, why do we do it? Why do we blog? Is it to help? To just get it out of our system? To feel postmodern?

I really hope you check out her page at: http://lanedmoore@blogspot.com

enjoy!


Also- my friend Keith Watson- church planter and soon to be pastor of City Church in Macon, GA was recently added to the Macon top 5 under 40 leaders of Macon Magazine. I'm so proud, I just hope Sanders doesn't get jealous..after all he grew up in the woods.

Patriot Day

It's sad to me that we live in a a day and age where we almost have to defend our patriotism. I'm certainly not suggesting that America is above reproach. Far from it. There is so much revisionist history out there that we tend to forget that America is one nation under God.

Just thought I'd share some backstory about some of the fifty-six signers of the Declaration of Independence. Most Americans know next to nothing about these fifty-six heroes who pledged their lives and fortunes to the cause of freedom.

John Witherspoon was an ordained minister and authored several books of sermons, as well as editing America's first family Bible published in 1791.

Charles Thomson served as Secretary of Congress and was a Biblical scholar. He helped edit the first American translation of the Greek Septuagint into English.

Charles Carroll, the last of the fifty-six signers to pass away at the age of 95 in 1832, wrote out his declaration of faith at the age of eighty-nine.

On the mercy of my Redeemer I rely for my salvation, and on His merits; not on the works I have done in obedience to His precepts.

Another Founding Father, Benjamin Rush, is considered the "Father of American Medicine." He personally trained three thousand medical students. Dr. Rush also founded "The First Day Society" which was the precursor to the Sunday School movement, as well as founding America's first Bible society. It was Benjamin Rush who said the Constitution was "as much the work of Divine Providence as any of the miracles recorded in the Old and New Testament were the effects of divine power."

Francis Hopkinson was a church music director and edited one of the first hymnals printed in America in 1767. He also set 150 psalms to music.

Roger Sherman is the only Founding Father to sign all four of America's Founding documents: the Articles of Association in 1774, the Declaration of Independence in 1776, the Articles of Confederation in 1778, and the U.S. Constitution in 1787. Roger Sherman was also a theologian. He wrote a personal creed that was adopted by his church:

I believe that there is one only living and true God, existing in three persons, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost, the same in substance, equal in power and glory. That the Scriptures of the Old and New Testaments are a revelation from God, and a complete rule to direct us how we may glorify and enjoy Him.

I could share story after story, but the bottom line is this: many, if not most, of our Founding Fathers were motivated by their Faith in Christ. They wrote sermons and creeds and hymns. They founded Bible Societies and Sunday Schools. They served God's purposes in their own generation.

Hope that adds a dimension of gratitude to your 4th of July celebration!

Monday, July 2, 2007

Coming Soon

So I'm not really sure why, but last night while i was sitting in the worship service i felt convicted about a couple of things. One, was that i am not really praying a psalm for this season. I prayed with Lane all throughout the fall a Psalm of deliverence and now look where we are. AMAZING!! So i think that for this season I am going to be praying and fasting through Psalm 116. It is a Psalm about honoring your vows to the Lord. It's pretty cool. Also, I felt like doing something taht i haven't done in quite some time, and that is to write my own Psalm. So look for it soon. Today is Monday, and we have this Wed. night off. I'm pretty excited to get to hang with some of Lane's family.

Sunday, July 1, 2007

Big Daddy

Today, my dad is preaching at my home church. How cool is it that father and son can be doing ministry at the same time 300 miles away from one another. I'm sure he'll knock it out of the park.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Summer Lovin'

One of the reasons that i love summer so much is that summer has become my time to dream. Last year at this time i was dreaming of the day God would deliver me from the place where i was being taught lessons on humility, courage, and perserverance. This summer i find myself delivered. Delivered to a great place where Lane and I are both happy, where we have friends, where we just feel altogether better about life. I am still learning to let go of pride, to have courage, and to perservere, but things are going pretty well. That being said, it is summer and so here are the things that i am dreaming about.

1.) Running: Right now my plan is to run a 1/2 marathon this fall. Late October. Then on to the big dog- a full marathon in early 2008. (No really, I'm serious.)
2.) Creatively- I have so many things to think through right now, what to do, what to call it, how should it look, what should it sound like, what do we do when we get there, if we do will it be good, can we last?
3.) California- I want to go so bad, I just can't stand it some days.
4.) Starbucks- it just hit me, i need some caffiene.

Anyway, off to the coffee shop. And to dream.

holla.

Monday, June 25, 2007

what a weekend...

this weekend was an unusual one to say the least. lane and i went out on our date and decided to head out to midtown atl. for a little flying biscuit action. however, when we arrived we found that we were in the middle of the atl. gay pride weekend festival that was going on all around us. we didn't want to be ignorant enough to leave so we stayed and learned some pretty invaluable lessons from our new friends. things like...

1.) ALL generalizations are bad. (notice the pun.)
2.) people don't want to be treated equal, they want special attention.
3.) everyone is asking the same question: "will you love me for me?"

* all of this to say that it was fun. so much fun that i don't think we will ever try it again for fear of being disappointed in the amount of fun that we wish we were having.

:: also this weekend we had a great leaders meeting. so cool to be in a place where you don't want to kill youself after meeting with your volunteers. they are the coolest people in da world.

- finally, had much moments of LOL with Jeremy yesterday. could be one of the missing pieces to our team. only time will tell.

holla.

Friday, June 22, 2007

new product produces high levels of lol

my fav. new product for middle schoolers...

http://www.stupid.com/stat/BFSP.html

Generational Effections

my mom came in to visit and hang out with me and my wife last night. so weird for me that my mom and i are friends who hang out...anyway. this morning at breakfast she said something that struck me and made me think. "i just love being a parent to an adult child..it makes it all seem worth while, like i did a good job." this made me think, i wonder why we only measure growth in the immediate, rather than in the long term life effect. my parents surely had a number of reasons to think that they had failed, or that they just got a bad draw when i was in MS and HS. but the effect of parents and leaders who decide that there truly is power in long term perserverance is amazing. i know i have studied a lot lately on generational sin, and the affect one generation has on another, but today was the first day that i thought about the positive implications as well.

Thursday, June 21, 2007

free stuff

today is june 21.
important for a couple of reasons:

1.) the day after my wife's birthday
2.) the first day of summer
3.) the longest day of the year (most sunlight, least darkness)
4.) beginning of higher hotel rates and gas prices
5.) national flip flop day

* if you go to tropical smoothie and are wearing flip flops you get a free smoothie today.

why do bad things happen?

last night was one of those nights when i felt really uncomfortable with the sermon. it was our first week of "what's up with that?" and the first week's question was "why do bad things happen to good people?" i think that my final conclusion is that i am not 100 % sure why bad things happen to good people, or why good things happen to bad people. the only thing i am sure about is that it is up to me to trust God no matter what happens. i think i communicated this to the students but i am not sure. does anyone else ever feel that? uncomfortable because what you said you were going to preach didn't really materialize in your own life?

that being said, i am really impressed with our new group so far. it is amazing to see how moving 50 8th graders out and moving 50 new 6th graders in can change the dynamic of the whole scene. this will be cool to watch.

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

i keep forgetting


last thought, i promise.

my good buddy jason is a new dad, and is awesome. little carson in so cool that he makes anyone want to have a kid.

here he is...

happy birfday

also- the love of my life, lane, is turning 24 tomorrow.

how cool is it that i am blessed with the most amazing woman alive.

what's up with that

our new series kicks off tomorrow night. called: what's up with that? 4 burning questions that MS students ask...
just a thought, but i wonder if sometimes we are asking junior high questions that we want to know or are they asking really impressive questions. i'll be updating throughout the month.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

creative team-work

i love getting together with the creative team to tackle a new idea. last night we got together at cafe stella (cool vibes man!) and planned out the rest of the year's sermon series. it feels so good to share the weight and brunt of the creative end of the ministry. many props to everyone for letting their creative juices flow!

Saturday, June 9, 2007

those 23 and older...thank your lucky stars..

check out this e-mail i just got from a friend on my birthday...

People over 23 should be dead. According to today’s regulators and
bureaucrats, those of us who were kids in the 60’s, 70’s, 80’s, probably shouldn’t have survived.

Our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paint.
We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets, and
when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets. (Not to mention the risks we took
hitchhiking.)

As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.

Riding in the back of a pickup truck on a warm day was always a special
treat. We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.
We ate cupcakes, bread and butter, and drank soda pop with sugar in it,
but we were never overweight because we were always outside playing.
We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one
actually died from this.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then rode
down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the
bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were
back when the streetlights came on.
No one was able to reach us all day. No cell phones. Unthinkable!
We did not have Play stations, Nintendo 64, X-Boxes, no video games at
all, no 99 channels on cable, video tape movies, surround sound, personal
cell phones, personal computers, or Internet chat rooms.

We had friends! We went outside and found them.
We played dodge ball, and sometimes, the ball would really hurt.
We fell out of trees, got cut and broke bones and teeth, and there were
no lawsuits from these accidents. They were accidents. No one was to blame
but us. Remember accidents?

We had fights and punched each other and got black and blue and learned
to get over it.
We made up games with sticks and tennis balls and ate worms, and
although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes, nor did
the worms live inside us forever.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend’s home and knocked on the door, or
rang the bell or just walked in and talked to them.

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who
didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment.
Some students weren’t as smart as others, so they failed a grade and
were held back to repeat the same grade. Tests were not adjusted for any
reason.

Our actions were our own. Consequences were expected.
The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke a law was unheard of.
They actually sided with the law. Imagine that!

This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers and problem
solvers and inventors, ever.
The past 30 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.
We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how
to deal with it all. And you’re one of them!

Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors?

back and black (and blue)

got back from camp last night. amazing!! it is always cool and refreshing for me to spend a week just with my ms kids. always amazed to see what they can do when they let God unleash in their lives. saw some great life decisions made and had the privelige of walking through the plan of salvation and seeing some students come to Christ. Chase was a great experience...even though i didn't have cell phone or internet for a week. (man, am i addicted) my favorite part of camp is always seeing the quiet kids become the ones who just will not shut up...ever. hahaha. anyway, i am so proud to be called to ministry. there is not a better job in the whole stinkin' world. just had a great birthday day with my wife. she is my fav. all that to say glad that the brusing is over and that i have time to let my now older body heal.

Friday, June 1, 2007

Camp Crazy


Years ago I did a camp for a church out in Memphis that was a Junior High Camp. They called it Camp Crazy. Now I think I understand why they did this...not because the camp was crazy for the kids, but crazy planning in the part of the youth ministers. That being said, i am so psyched about going to camp next week. Tomorrow we will go up to set up our stage and all that other gooey stuff and then we leave after church on Sunday. Can't stinkin wait.

Thursday, May 31, 2007

Potential


We graduated our 5th graders up to MS last night in a really cool service. We had our outgoing 8th graders and their parents pray over them after we annointed each one with oil. All i could think about was how much potential MS students have. For example...one of our girls dads had a heart attack and she couldn't afford to go to camp. Our kids set out and have so far raised more than 200 dollars toward her fees. Amazing. On a slightly lighter note....here's something else that proves the potential of Middle Schoolers. This hog weighs more than 1000 pounds and took a bulldozer to be lifted out of the forest. It was shot and killed by an 11 year old. Not kidding.

5 odd things about me...

1.) I love juices of all kinds..i actually think i could be one of those "juicer" people but i don't like fruit. (i think it's the texture)
2.) I have really large feet for someone my height. 6' tall size 12 shoes
3.) I have not been home on my birthday in more than 7 years.
4.) I'm a perfectionist, I have a great memory, but i sometimes forget what i am doing and why.
5.) Writing isn't therapy for me, but i still force myself to do it.

Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Break-Fast


Been fasting from writing in the blog for a month now. Just wanted to take some time to make sure that i could do ministry as well as write about it. (it would be cool if some of the emerging, missional guys could do the same) but i digress. nothing that spectacular to talk about...just saw a great cartoon and thought it would be the best way to re-emerge into the blogosphere. Hope you enjoy Jesus telling some kid to "Get It Out!!!"

Monday, April 30, 2007

baptism day

yesterday could have been one of the most amazing days of my life. we had baptism day at church and it was unbelievable. we baptized 100 people!! it was great to see people responding to the prompt of the Holy Spirit and follow Christ in baptism. it was actually a little overwhelming to see grown men, fathers in their sunday clothes, get up and say in front of their families and everyone else that they wanted to get baptized. it was great. humbling. exhausting. but great. we had about 16 ms students get baptized and it was really cool to see how seriously they took the time. they weren't there for anyone else. they were there for Christ. what a great day!

Tuesday, April 24, 2007

Sunday Wrap-Up

Theme: Prayer & Forgiveness

Student Attendance: All-time high

Leader Attendance: average

Student Involvement: average

Highlight: Voice-over announcements

Creative Element: lower than average

Lesson Learned: Expect More

not my job


remind you of something someone in your church would do????

Sunday, April 15, 2007

Sunday Wrap-Up

Sunday Wrap-Up

Lesson: Surrender- Matthew 20: 29-34

Leader Attendance: Higher than average

Student Attendance: Higher than average

Creativity: Lower than average

Student Involvement: Average

Highlight: Leader Meeting- Gotta Cast That Vision!!

What I Learn From Middle School Students

Today it occured to me as I was listening to my students pray for their friends who were on their way to church that sometimes my prayer life and my idea of how to pray can become jaded. I listened to them pray with such intensity and sincerity for God to move and show up. When they pray, they believe. I am not saying that I don't believe when I pray, but sometimes my belief is down-graded to slight hope. My prayers end up being hopeful cliches that will or will not affect the outcome of what is being prayed. My students really believe what they pray...and when they pray, God shows up. I think there is something to be said about the prayer of a righteous man.

Paul says that God hears the prayers of a righteous man, so I ask,

"What makes us righteous?"

There is nothing that we do besides believe makes us right before God. After all, it was His son that did all the work for our relationship, so what can we then do to become righteous? I don't think being righteous means being perfect. If that were true then when would any of our prayers be heard? I think that what makes us righteous is the same thing that makes us right- our belief. So that being said, it is our belief that makes our prayers heard.

Friday, April 13, 2007

Wednesday Wrap-Up

Attendance: higher than normal

Volunteer Attendance: average

Volunteer involvement: higher than normal

Series: The Gospel According to Bruce

Student Response: higher than normal

Creativity: High

Fav. Element: Worship Celebration

What a Week!!

It has been a great week at Crossroads! The Easter weekend ended with 150 people + recieving Christ. Amazing!

This past Wednesday we had the most MSers ever for a Wednesday night and had 20 people accept Christ and then 14 more pray for repentence.

What a truly humbling experience.

The lesson learned from the past week is that when we pray something...God answers our prayers. We should then be careful how we pray, and how we live.

Sunday, April 8, 2007

follow up for: to what end?

just finished reading a few comments that people made after the warren and harris debate. sometimes i just shake my head when i hear people in the blogosphere talking about how proud they were that rick really, "stuck it to that atheist," with his debate skills. what exactly do you expect from someone who does not know Christ? one of the deeper things that i have ever been quoted as saying is, "Christians should act like it, and not expect people who aren't..... to act like they are." people who expect anything else need to spend some time outside their church walls for a while with people who really are hurting and need more than quirky and non-sensical cliches spoken into their lives. [end of rant]

Wednesday, April 4, 2007

to what end?

last summer i read a book entitled, "The End of Faith," by Sam Harris. Sam Harris is an atheist who believes that not only is there no such thing as God, but that Christianity is responsible for all things bad in the world today.

Here is the link to a recent NEWSWEEK article that has a conversation between Rick Warren and Sam Harris.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17889148/site/newsweek/

after i read the article i was really just frustrated. really more because i am someone who tends to err on the side of simplicity and pragmatism here is my conclusion:

- Rick's core belief is that God created man. For him, everything flows out of that.
- Sam's core belief is that man created God. For him, everything flows out of that.

Since theism and atheism are both faith-based belief systems, how do you prove the other guy wrong in a debate?

Sunday, April 1, 2007

Sunday Wrap-Up

encounter- Sunday, April 1st.

student attendance: below average

volunteer attendance: below average

student involvement/response: above average

creativity: above average

theme: passover

- first weekend of spring break for 90 % of students. many out of town. same for leaders.

Saturday, March 31, 2007

ipol, ipol, ipol...

just a quick shout out for a new fav. restaurant in suwanee, ga.

lane and i had a date night tonight. first one in quite a while.
we went to this great place called "ipollinos"

our waiter told us that in the summer they have jazz every friday night in the park across the street and if you sit out on the terrace you not only get good food, great service, but you get a free jazz concert as well.

also: while we are on the digestive topic- my new fav. coffee place is changing its name to BOKU coffee from BEANERZ.

it was the name that drew me in the first place. this makes me wonder- what is in a name exactly??

anybody got any cool names from places that produced recent food raves??

confession

it is said that confession is good for our soul...what does this mean for you and i?
too many times in the world of ministry, at least missional and seeker ministry, we
are too afraid to call people to take a hard look at the awfulness that is their own hearts
and souls. i thought about this today when i was reading through psalm 69, a psalm that
david prayed when it seemed that his life was crumbling down around him. he prays that, "God, you
know my folly, and my wrongs are not hidden from you."
this is such a clensing practice for those in the ministerial world. confession leads us to a place
where we are pured-out vessels and we feel all the more ready to be used and driven by God.

where does this leave us with the people that we lead?
if confession is so good for us, then why do we not call others to do the same?
do they not lead broken lives as well?
do they not feel pressure?

confession: in my life this is one of the more neglected parts of my ministry.

covenant: that i would preach the whole gospel, not just that which sounds cool and edgy.

loving life.

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

New Crib

Writing for the first time in my new house.

Interesting how new environments can give us a great new perspective on life.

Like my friend Jason whose wife just had a baby an hour ago...new life moments can produce

new life experiences and thought patterns.

Thanks to everyone, especially Robyn, who pretty much prayed us into this house.

I'm just being honest...

This is a saying that is widely used...especially by my best friend Ryan Britt.

That being said, i am reading more and more, especially in the futurist world about the importance of authenticity.

I even caught a post by Mark Batterson on the subject yesterday.

Below is my response post:

Be careful how much we use the term authentic, or transparent. I think that it is very important to be open and honest with people but maybe being authentic is an open door to being openly sinful and not caring. I don't think its so much about being authentic but about being more like Christ. As a Christian, our authenticity is not to be more like us, but to be more like Christ.

I think Paul says it best: "Your life is not your own. You were bought with a price."

*Props to J. Britt for his inspiration.

Thursday, March 22, 2007

taming the temper

so today i got angry...not in the cool, futurist way that all the emergent church guys talk about, but really, truly, angry.
the people working on closing my house completely blew it today. seriously. we have had to push the closing a total of 2 weeks so far for one thing or another. now the seller is not happy, and i am realizing just how out of control of things i really am.
so today i took it out on the mortgage guy. not that he didn't deserve it, but he didn't deserve it from me.
i am being a little dramatic here. me getting angry with him meant that i told him that i was disappointed in how he was handling my deal, and that i was not happy. (really scary i know)
this got me thinking..when is it appropriate to get angry enough to say that you "lost your temper?" i understand what it means to have righteous indignation, but to lose your temper???
from what i understand in scripture, we are not to be slave to anything...especially our emotions. paul talks about buffeting his body, making it his slave. i assume this meant his emotions as well.
just something to think about.
all of that to say. no real damage done today. we'll close next week. we have a place to have a roof over our heads, and a place to keep warm.
amazing how understanding your blessings can effect your view of what is right and wrong in your life huh?

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

spring fever

just a reminder that today is the first day of spring...that means a couple of things:

1.) opening day of the baseball season is 11 days away.

2.) the master's begins in 14 days.

3.) there is so much pollen in the air here in north atlanta that it could kill you.

randomness

had a few random thoughts today...

1.) how does confidence correspond with humility?? in my life right now i feel like God is trying to rebuild my confidence after a pretty humbling two years, but how do i keep that from turning into pride?

2.) my wife is an amazing woman. right now she is driving back and forth a couple days a week just to be with me and be apart of this new start in the atl. did i mention we were also moving on sat.?? all that to say- i picked the right one.

3.) i really struggle with criticism. most of my life was spent being a people pleaser. (right now i'm in recovery) but i still feel terrible when people don't think that i am totally like whoa..

4.) i think it's fun to be a middle school pastor because you get to say things like totally like whoa...

5.) my dad is my hero.

6.) i would give up sleep for a week for sunday passes to the master's.

7.) God has made me pure and whole. "the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith." 1 tim. 1:5

Monday, March 19, 2007

r-e-v

yesterday might have been one of the longest but coolest days of my life. i left the hotel (because i still don't have a house, but will on fri.) at 8, left crossroads at 11, went to tn. got ordained at one of the coolest services that i have ever had a chance to be apart of because my dad and i got ordained together, then came back to jason's house to stay. lane got up at 4:30 and i have been up since.

mad props to jason for the great challenge he gave at the ordination.

also: how cool for me to be in a room with a modern day patriarch. my grandfather is really one of those guys whose legacy of faith has reached down through multiple generations. feels good to be apart of history.

all that to say, i love my wife, she is cooler than i could ever dream of being. i also love that the people in my life are great influencers for the kingdom.

peace out from the atl.

Monday, March 12, 2007

Day One

Today is literally my first day on the job here at Crossroads. What a feeling of being overwhelmed.... I am immediately consumed it seems on every side by what can be described as a mixture of fear, anxiety, and excitement. On the other hand, God is continually teaching me mountains of faith and dependence through this time. I am reminded of how sweet and necessary some of these key relationships in my life have become. Lane is amazing. God gave me a wife who is also the strongest and most wonderfully hot woman in the world. Second, friends for support. Who am I without the relationships in my life?? Without these people life can seem pretty incomplete, like a sentence with no capitalization or punctuation. What is so great is that God is so good and faithful all throughout the day::

"On the other hand I am filled with power-- with the Spirit of the Lord.."

Micah 3:8

Friday, March 9, 2007

open sourcing

saw this over at evotional.com, batterson's blog, and found it to be amazing. (notice that i'm totally taking something from someone else's blog, but it's all good...we're not competing here)

the idea is great. what is not great is what is being taught in seminaries today is completely contradictory. did you know that there are pending lawsuits, at this moment, with pastors suing other pastors for the rights to their sermons?? i understand the need for intellectual domain and the right to one's own property, but read below...i think being on the same team could be a class that would benefit most if not all of us...


"Had an interesting brainstorming meeting yesterday with Dave Ferguson and Eric Bramlett from CCC and Todd Wilson who is the organizational guru behind the National New Church Conference. Just thought I'd post a few thoughts in process.

I'm a huge believer in and proponent of open-source resources. I have no issue with churches selling DVDs, CDs, etc. You've got to recoup cost. But I think it puts a smile on God's face when churches shareware their ideas and resources. We tried to take a step in that direction with www.chasethelion.com. All the video and graphics are free--no strings attached. Honestly? We love it when churches ask us if they can use something we've produced. And we have no hesitations sharing because nine times out of ten we got it from someone else :) Eric Bramlett threw out a word yesterday that I love: manipulatable. We talked about churches posting videos and graphics so that they are manipulatable. In other words, you take the final cut or photoshop file and make it available so that other churches can watermark it with their information.

The danger with open-source is simply copying someone else's creativity. But I'd like to think of it as stimulating creativity. I'm not sure the most creative churches in the country can come up with 52 weeks of creative material. It's OK to borrow ideas. That is what open-source is all about. We're all on the same team. Let's share best ideas and best practices. Not sure how this idea will evolve. But I think we could have significant kingdom impact if the church-at-large becomes more open-source."

Jesus Videos

The guys over at Vintage 21, an emergent church in North Carolina, put together some pretty cool videos last year for a sermon series about Jesus.

These are obviously meant tongue in cheek but it makes you wonder, what would Jesus sound like??

The link is for the first of four videos.

Vintage 21 Jesus Videos.
Vintage21 Jesus Video #1

one message, big idea, etc.

it seems like everything that i am reading these days, whether its pop culture business info, emergent church blogs, or even a book from northpoint resources, i am getting basically the same message- "it's all about communicating ONE THING"

i really like this idea, not that it is that original. did anyone else ever see city slickers 2??

all of that to say, this is important for people in ministry to understand because as much as our message has, should, and will stay the same since the time of Jesus, the way that we communicate that message must evolve.

i can't count how many churches that i've been to, or pastors that i've heard who think that because they heard one guy, 30 years ago preach and see a response, then they have to do the same. (i.e. Charles Stanley, Billy Graham, and Adrian Rodgers are so far out of my league i do not even attempt to criticize them, only the lame imitators)

then there are people who think that communication is overrated. that all you have to do is be in good standing and people won't really care how or what you communicate.

i had a friend say to me a few years ago, "a church will forgive you for a lot of things, but bad preaching is not one of them." how true.

all of this comes in the context of scripture- of course!
"Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly." James 3:1

Thursday, March 8, 2007

cracker barrel


had breakfast this morning at cracker barrel with my two closest friends in macon. pretty sad because tomorrow is my last day, but cool none the less. here are two guys that i have really connected with and see some cool things in their future that i think God wants to do with them.

Thursday, March 1, 2007

dmv

just got back from renewing my driver's licence, and getting new tags for Lane's car. this process began at 8:45 this morning and was not over until well after lunch. one of the things that i am constantly amazed at when i have to go through this process is how painstakingly slow and arduous the time seems. here we have a service that is necessary for our well being and lifestyle, but upon entry (if you can find it) one is left dreading the next time the doors of the establishment must be darkened.

remind you of anywhere??

such a great example of why the marketing and service side of church work is so important. remember- even though what we are providing is the most important something one might have, it is still up to us to make the process pleasant. after all- who wants to go to a church where there is no ad. to get you there, no nice people to let you know what's going on, or no one who can, in 30 seconds, tell you what this place is all about.

what i'm getting at is our lack of concern for the people in our communities who come to our church and have no clue what church should be like. our expectation, much like the dmv, is for those persons to walk in, know exactly how to act and what to do, and then we will welcome and serve those people.

ask yourself, "when did i last want to go to the dmv?" the same might be asked of your church.


great site for church marketing, seriously: www.churchmarketingsucks.com check it out.

Wednesday, February 28, 2007

in tha hizzy

just found out that all the finance stuff is going to work on the house!! thanx God. also- just a reminder...comments on all postings are encouraged and welcome. however- the use of profanity and/or vulgar language will not be tolerated. other than that sour note- feelin' really good!

lame duck

ever thought about what it means to be a lame duck? the congress that just exited was for a couple of months a lame duck congress. they still had the titles, they still had their position, but what they lacked was the confidence of the people that were supposed to be their followers. as i think about this concept i wonder how many leaders in today's churches feel like lame duck leaders?

"sure i'm a pastor, but nobody seems to want to follow where i want to go."

"why won't anyone listen to my ideas anymore?"

the answer to the lame duck dilemma comes in a couple of ways; one of two things can change and one can take a cue from congress on this one.

1.) the leader in question can change. this seems to be the most popular option. when people are not satisfied with the performance, they will inevitably chooses someone who will satisfy them.

2.) the leader can work to learn, engage, and slowly change the minds of the people whom he leads. a prime example of this is....anyone?....Jesus. In scripture it is made apparent time and time again that Jesus was not the kind of messiah that everyone had been waiting for. he was in fact quite the opposite. but it was not his goal to make everyone happy, but to allow everyone to understand.

*lame duck n.
An elected officeholder or group continuing in office during the period between failure to win an election and the inauguration of a successor.
An officeholder who has chosen not to run for reelection or is ineligible for reelection.
An ineffective person; a weakling.

Monday, February 26, 2007

core values

saw these core values on national community church's website. pastored by mark batterson, my hero. thought these were great. really life changing to be honest.


Expect the unexpected
Irrelevance is irreverence
Love people when they least expect it and least deserve it
Playing it safe is risky
Pray like it depends on God and work like it depends on you (this is my fav.)
Everyone is invaluable and irreplaceable
Everything is an experiment
You cannot out give God
Maturity does not equal conformity
Go the extra mile
It's never too late to be who you might have been
Do it right and do it big

back in business

took a week off to take care of some things in my life that deserved my attention. had conversations with people to let them know that i was leaving to go to lawrenceville to be the student pastor to middle school students at crossroads community church. let me share a little thought about leaving: each time you get to tell people the story about why you are leaving, it does not get easier. thanks for the patience. moving march 10. yikes!

Tuesday, February 20, 2007

apologies

been out of the blogosphere all day, sorry about that. today brought with it some interesting events and challenges that took priority over my philosophical waxings on life. one of those things was that i had to tell the church staff that i was leaving. what a weird feeling. the feeling that i got while i was telling them made my stomach churn and my voice go up. this is weird because lane and i have been praying for months now that God would deliver us. that He would show us where it was that we were supposed to serve. the odd thing is that now that the time has come to flesh out those things, it is becoming pretty nerve wracking. not complaining here, just being honest.
one of the things that you don't realize is how, in leaving well, you can do things right for the people who are being left. you can be honest with leadership while still maintaining loyalty and integrity. you can make sure people know that really, it's not their fault. (if its not)

all of this on a day where i was waiting to see if we were going to be able to move into a house in l-ville or if it looked like 12 more months of rent. went well. thanks for praying. thanks God. you've been in this from the beginning, why should i be surprised now?? until then...

Monday, February 19, 2007

statement or connection...

There's a difference between making a statement and making a connection. Statements don't usually accomplish much. Statements promote a defensive posture as opposed to a receptive posture. Which reaction do you think is more beneficial to sharing the good news?
- churchmarketingsucks.com

i'm really alright...

just got done with a class. a seminary class. we're talking graduate level stuff here. today we talked about how to communicate with one another. seriously. the whole sender, message, receiver stuff that i have heard since i was a freshman in college. sure, my judgment could be a little jaded because i was a communication major in college but really...give me a break. here i am, giving up a day of my work week, a day away from my wife, a day so that i can learn how to be a better minister of the gospel. this isn't high school people. this is the real deal. and what do we learn today?? we learn about how to talk to one another. if you're still reading, thanks for weathering my rant. all of that is to say that: the business of working vocationally for God is taken much less seriously than ever before. the men that the seminaries of today are producing are not ready to charge hell...why? because they have a feel good diary in one hand, and a weak, cliche theology in the other. i honestly feel like i could learn more from a public library than i have this semester of GRADUATE school. how seriously do we take the lost, dying souls of the world? seriously enough to spend all day talking about how, "ministry is hard, but don't worry, people will love you if you don't hurt their feelings. let's get one thing straight here...as ministers we only have to worry about one thing. "On the other hand i am filled with power- with the spirit of the Lord-and with justice and courage to make known to Jacob his rebellious acts, even to Israel his sin." -Micah 3:8 This ain't for the weak of spirit men...this is hard, and it's the hard that makes it great. if we need classes to reassure us that it's all going to be fine and that being sensitive and womanly is alright then we are in the wrong business.